I started writing this blog some time last year. There were things that were really grinding at me, so I took to my trusty iPad and started writing. Sometimes, I find that just writing something down will go a long way in alleviating the issue that was bothering me. This was the case with this particular blog at the time. But, things have come full circle and I decided to take it up again. So, here it goes.
We all have those things that get under our skin. Many times, those things are habits or speech by others that annoy us more than just a little. We may even do things that annoy others. I have several pet peeves of which I will share a few.
One thing that really irritates me a great deal is when a witch refers to her pet as a familiar. Just because you have a black cat (or any pet, for that matter) doesn’t mean that that black cat or pet is a familiar. A familiar is any animal that aids you in, or protects you during a rite, ritual or casting. Just because your pet is very loving and loyal and makes you feel good about yourself does not make it a familiar. Please, people, stop referring to your pets as familiars. It really insults the actual familiars that are out there.
Another thing, in the pagan community, that really gets to me, is women who are too young to have lived long enough to acquire the wisdom necessary, calling themselves Crones. Explain to me, please, how a woman in her late 20’s to early 30s has walked the path long enough to acquire the wisdom necessary to use this incredible honorific. There’s a big difference between knowledge and wisdom. I can read every book out there about witchcraft and gain an incredible amount of knowledge, but it doesn’t mean I have gained enough life experience or wisdom to teach it.
I recently read something on Facebook where the poster asked if anyone besides her was going to skip the “Mother” phase and go right to Crone. Really!? You don’t get to skip an important part of the life cycle because you choose not to have children. If you feel the need to be called something beyond Maiden, use the term Priestess. After all, priestess means teacher.
I think that in this age of technology where anything can be found at the touch of a keyboard and is readily available at your fingertips, too many people are too willing to throw titles around that haven’t been earned and are not deserving. That is, of course, my very humble opinion.
These are probably the same type of people who blame everything on everyone else and refuse to take on the responsibility of their own actions. Boo hoo. Life is hard. It’s supposed to be hard so you build character and learn from mistakes we may make along the way.
I’m supposed to sit and listen to these college age kids in the early to mid-20s, whine and complain about how they can’t find a job and they can’t pay back their student loans and how they’re in so much debt when they are the ones who took on the debt and knew what they were getting into. Today’s youth thinks that everything should just be given to them. When I was 25 years old I had already been married with three kids, a mortgage, and was in a job I didn’t like. I did what I had to do to survive and to make sure that my family had everything that they needed. I didn’t expect somebody else to give us everything. I went out and worked two jobs (sometimes three) so that there was always a roof over my family’s head and food in their stomachs. If you haven’t had the opportunity to live, you shouldn’t be complaining about how hard life is. Because I have absolutely no sympathy for those of you who haven’t even given it a solid try or attempted to live anything that resembles reality. Grow up.
People need to stop drinking the kool-aid and start thinking for themselves in a rational manner in terms of actual reality. All these sheep, following blindly and spewing rhetoric they heard somewhere from someone trying to sell their agenda and gain power in a broken government, need a great big dose of reality. After all, there was a man in Germany in the 1930’s and 40’s whose rhetoric convinced an entire nation to follow him. That turned out well. Didn’t it?
We have what I like to refer to as the crazy 3-5% on the extreme right and left. These are the people who get up on their soapboxes and scream at the top of their lungs about how their way is right and everybody else is wrong and everybody should do what they say. These are the people who get everybody all up in a fury, convincing them that their problems are all someone else’s fault. And, if you follow them, they will make everything all right. The problem is, the left and the right are just different sides of the same coin. Neither one of them have the good of the People in mind.
Then, you have the next 5 to 10% that are not quite so far out there. But, they tend to listen to that crazy 3 to 5% and they do whatever good little sheep are told to do. They fall into that fever pitch and get all worked up and don’t even bother to look into whether or not the people telling them what to do actually know what they’re talking about.
Here is an interesting fact: from April 1-9, 2019, Gallup conducted a poll asking, “In politics, as of today, do you consider yourself a Republican, a Democrat, or an Independent?” 27% answered Republican, 26% answered Democrat, and a whopping 44% answered Independent.* 44%!!! 44% can change the world. As soon as that 44% realize they don’t have to pick the left or the right, and vote for a third party, life will begin to change for the better.
But in order for this to happen, an intense change in attitude has to take place. Maybe people should stop giving in to peer pressure. People also need to stop creating peer pressure. I learned early in life to not let people push me around. When I was six, I gave in to peer pressure, and the results were so disastrous (I was in a motorcycle accident), I vowed to never give in again. It took me another five years and another traumatic event (I was raped) to stand up to the bullies in my life. Hopefully, it won’t take something so big or traumatic to let you see the light.
We, as a nation, need to stop hiding from the truth. We drink alcohol and do recreational drugs to hide. We even drug our children to dull their senses when they don’t fit inside the box we tell them to get into. Hell, we don’t even properly educate our children any more. Aren’t children our future? Shouldn’t we be doing more to prepare them for what’s ahead instead of leaving them helpless to see what’s coming?
Our children should be everything to us. Family should be sacred. I see brothers and sisters fighting for their parents attention and the parents so busy trying to turn them against the other parent they forget what it actually means to love them. People need to learn it’s alright to not compete and just love their kids.
I know I’m very fortunate to have such a loving and supportive family. My family supported me through a lot. I know from NCTE’s research that most families would not have supported a transgender person in their midst. My brother, three sisters, step-brother and step-sister, both parents, all three of my children, and both my ex-wives have supported my transition. Like I said, I very fortunate.
Why can’t more families be supportive of one another? Wouldn’t that be awesome?
I know I walk an interesting path through this lifetime. I like to think I have a unique individuality. One that helps me make the best out of the crap life likes to throw our way.
I chose this picture I took of the solar eclipse for this blog because it shows the light breaking out from behind the moon to illuminate the world once more. I hope the light can get through to you all.
I am not a sheep, blindly following the flock. I am a lioness, carving my my through all that life throws at me.
Peace, Light, Love and Harmony to you all.